Category: Family, Parenting

  • Lights Out for Earth Hour

    Lights Out for Earth Hour

    lights out for earth hour 2011

    Every time I have some moment on a seashore,
    or in the mountains,
    or sometimes in a quiet forest,

    I think this is why the environment has to be preserved.

    Bill Bradley

    “Earth Hour started in 2007 in Sydney, Australia when 2.2 million individuals and more than 2,000 businesses turned their lights off for one hour to take a stand against climate change. Only a year later and Earth Hour had become a global sustainability movement with more than 50 million people across 35 countries/territories participating. Global landmarks such as the Sydney Harbour Bridge, CN Tower in Toronto, Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, and Rome’s Colosseum, all stood in darkness, as symbols of hope for a cause that grows more urgent by the hour…

    On Saturday 27 March, Earth Hour 2010 became the biggest Earth Hour ever. A record 128 countries and territories joined the global display of climate action. Iconic buildings and landmarks from Asia Pacific to Europe and Africa to the Americas switched off. People across the world from all walks of life turned off their lights and came together in celebration and contemplation of the one thing we all have in common – our planet.”

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    I love Earth Hour.

    I love the idea of whole areas of the world coming together in the darkness, in support of the earth we all share.

    But I will be honest: the Earth Hour I observe each year celebrates a very specific environment— one of quiet time with my children.

    We live in a world of noise, noise, noise, NOISE (and I feel for the Grinch every year when he sounds this complaint; I really do. I understand his pain). From planes overhead to cars rushing by to shouting over the background noise of the television to even the hum of the refrigerator: noise is constant in our lives.

    Our family went through quite a few involuntary “Earth Hours” this winter, as Mother Nature forced downtime upon us by knocking out our power time and again. It’s remarkable how quiet the house is without the lowgrade hum of electronics. It seems impossible, when awakened by the power flicking back on in the middle of the night, that we live with this constant background din without noticing it.

    I have to believe that this contributes to our levels of stress. I also think it makes it incredibly difficult for us to really hear each other.

    How many times have you snapped back to a conversation in progress without knowing what has been said? Raise your hand if you are guilty of the non-committal “mm-hmm” when a child has asked you something?

    We are surrounded by distraction. We can only focus on so much. Our anxiety climbs, and as a result, we “tune out.” We disconnect.

    Now think what that’s like for a child, who is so much more sensitive to external stimuli, and to the wandering of a parent’s attention.

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    On Saturday, March 26, at 8:30pm local time, people all over this great world of ours will shut out the lights for Earth Hour.

    In some areas there are community activities planned. A quick Google search will reveal lists of ideas for fun things to do with your children.

    This post is not about that. My plans are somewhat different.

    My kids and I will head outside armed with blankets and hot cocoa and the freedom of nothing planned. Maybe we’ll count the stars. Maybe we’ll hear the spring peepers which have hatched by the creek. (We will, no doubt, be freaked out by the owls who must be mid-mating season, judging by the unholy racket they’ve been making.)

    We will snuggle for warmth. We will speak in muted tones so that the neighbors cannot overhear, and by god I will listen to what they are saying, and for what meaning may be hiding underneath. My guess is that they will say what they really need for me to understand, while they have my absolute and undivided attention. And when you are a tween, or a teen, sigh, such things are always easier to say in the dark, under the guise of boredom.

    Rituals are important. I want my children to associate Earth Hour, and the onset of spring, with this feeling of unity and calm and being heard. I want them to always be able to seek out some pocket of silence outdoors and recreate the comfort of these times. To associate nature with love and protection.

    And yes, I want them to remember the seemingly ridiculous amount of weight and importance I put on these hours of quiet, so that they remember to do the same with their children.

    I want to find excuses to hold these hours more often.

    How do you get your children to open up to you?

    Find out more about Earth Hour here.

  • Dance Like No One’s Watching

    Dance Like No One’s Watching

    Who's Number One?

    You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
    Love like you’ll never be hurt,
    Sing like there’s nobody listening,
    And live like it’s heaven on earth.

    — William W. Purkey

    I… have a confession to make.

    I am a soccer mom.

    I don’t know how this happened.

    Somehow, I allowed myself to be talked into co-soccer-parenting, but invariably I wind up being the one sitting on the sidelines at 8:30 on Saturday mornings. With my camera and my coffee. Yes, that’s me, with my giant insulated cup of breakfast blend that I brought from home, and also a latte I bought at Dunkin Donuts along the way. Two-fistin’ my caffeine, it’s the only way to survive.

    This year is Cassidy’s first time playing soccer. She counted down the days until her first game. Constantly.

    This same child, who can not be hurried; who will be given a ten-minute, five-minute, two-minute warning that it is nearly time to leave for the school bus— and then be revealed, shoeless, curled up in her bed reading the encyclopedia; who, upon being asked “WHERE ARE YOUR SHOES???!!” will slowly tap her finger upon her lips as if in deep thought and murmur, with great gravity, “I know I saw them somewhere…”— this child wakes me up before my alarm goes off at 7am on SATURDAY MORNING to remind me to get ready for soccer.

    “Mom! What are you doing? There’s no time to brush your teeth, soccer starts in thirty-five minutes!

    Even more amazing, to me, is what this kid is like on “the field” (it’s actually a local school’s gymnasium for winter soccer).

     

    Her coach looks like Harry Potter.

    How Jeff and I, self-admitted self-conscious losers and social misanthropes, managed to spawn this child is beyond me.

    My daughter loves to play goalie. She dances and twirls in front of the net. She cheers for every bit of excitement that happens- the goal, the steal, the well-placed pass.

    I have seen her pull out the Running Man, the Moonwalk, the Worm and many, many other dance moves of her own making while gameplay was happening at the opposite end of the gym. I cannot help but wonder at this ability to dance like no one’s watching… while perfectly aware that she has an audience. I was never so young as to have that sort of freedom.

    The issue, of course, is that I have paid a surprisingly hefty sum for this child to play soccer, not watch other people play soccer and dance and cheer. Quite frankly, she could do that at home. (If we had cable.)

    So, not wanting to dampen this immense freedom she apparently feels and I envy her for, I carefully explained that I love her enthusiasm.

    But that the point of the game was to put the ball in the net.

    I told her to act as though she were attracted by a magnet of unusual size to the soccer ball. The ball was to stick to her feet, until it reached the goal.

    It’s always a mild shock when kids hear what their parents say, and almost unimaginable when they remember it a week later and put it into action. But she did. And now she’s in there, she’s dancing in the fray, she’s hustling, she’s making goals.

    kid soccer

     

    peewee soccer
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    Five- and six-year-old soccer is the best. They’re not old enough yet to be planning plays, to be self-conscious about their abilities, to care about who wins or loses. There’s not a competitive bone in their bodies.

    They cheer every time a goal is scored, regardless of who scored it. They help each other up when they go sprawling (and I have seen some spectacular kid pile-ups).

    At our last game, one girl would yell to her parents, “I kicked it! Did you see me?” every time her foot touched the soccer ball. Everyone was delighted. I’ve never seen so many big smiles in one place.

    At this age, it’s still a game. Something you do for fun. Remember what that felt like?

    I love it; I wish it could go on forever. (Don’t tell Jeff.)

    I just wish it didn’t happen so damn early in the morning.

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  • You Make My Heart Melt

    You Make My Heart Melt

    clever homemade valentine

    One way to open your eyes is to ask yourself,

    “What if I had never seen this before?
    What if I knew I would never see it again?”

    — Rachel Carson

    We’ve hit that point where the snow is mostly chips of ice, dirty and brown (or yellow).

    But like most things, you can easily find something to love, to make beautiful… if you dig deep enough.

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    I’m considering printing this snowheart photo out for Cass to give out as homemade Valentines for her classmates… what do you think of the caption “Your smile makes my heart melt?” Jeff says it’s creepy.

    Another option is this photo— you’ve seen it before:

    homemade valentine

    We’d cut slits above and below the hand and insert a lollipop, as (crudely) illustrated. “I’m a sucker for your friendship?” Yay or nay?

    I just don’t do store-bought cards. I know, you’re shocked.

    Votes, please!

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    P.S. For a veritable treasure trove of Valentine’s Day puns (I love this holiday purely for the permission to pun freely), you gotta check this out.

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