Category: Going Green 101

1. Chemicals are bad. Don’t bring them into your home.
2. Children like to help and they should be helping to clean, every day, until a habit is formed.

In my post about encouraging kids to clean, I mentioned that bedroom cleaning is an everyday must, because if you allow kids to let it go for a week, they will become overwhelmed. Faced with the magnitude of the mess, they become paralyzed and unable to begin. And they will give up. You, as a parent, will come back to that room after an hour and it will look exactly the same, and your child will be holed up in the corner, drawing. Your lectures will fall on deaf ears, because the child has already decided that he cannot do this by himself. And really, he can’t.

This is what has happened to our world. People have not done what they are capable of, to pick up after themselves. They became busy, or they found it inconvenient, or they stopped thinking about it, or they just stopped caring. And the mess has grown to the point where the magnitude is overwhelming, and people have given up. They have turned their back on the obvious and are busying themselves with pretty pictures.

They say that there is no proof of global warming. They say that recycling is pointless because recycling trucks and plants pollute too. They say that they didn’t make this mess and it’s not their job to clean it up.

That excuse doesn’t hold water in our house. I don’t care if it’s not fair that everyone has to pitch in and help clean up the aftermath of an afternoon of unbridled three-year-old origami. We all live in this house and we hold a shared responsibility to keep it clean.

No one is going to tell me their mother taught them differently.

Like I’ve said before, it all starts with you. You need to take those first baby steps, make a small decision like using non-toxic cleansers at home.

This in turn allows your kids make a real contribution to the family by chipping in and doing what they are capable of, which boosts their self esteem. They feel that their actions have an impact on their immediate environment. They eventually form lifelong habits of picking up after themselves, and a general aversion to clutter and mess. It becomes natural, a part of their character.

Soon they will be pointing out the litter on your street. And at the park. Maybe you, as a family, will do a little clean-up after going on a hike. Maybe you will start a community clean-up. Learn about your local watershed. Carry canvas grocery bags. Compost. Buy less and recycle more. Look for more and more ways to reduce your ecological impact, and increase your impact on others’ awareness.

This is when it gets exciting. You start getting up on your soapbox. You get loud. You point out changes that could be made at local businesses. You write your congressmen. You send out petitions. You speak at the local school. You start a blog.

Your enthusiasm is infectious. Other people, maybe, make small changes in their own lives. This ripples out to the people whose lives they touch.

I know that some people will never care, and that sucks. They will find you annoying. They will attempt to attach their labels to you, like you are some beast on exhibit at the zoo, something deviant and possibly dangerous. They will dismiss you as a hippie, a treehugger, a bleeding heart, a granola girl, whatever.

Thank them for it, because their labels mean they are taking notice. You have broken through to their consciousness, at least a little bit. Maybe you are making them think.

(Here’s my bleeding heart.)

It’s not enough to preach to the choir. We need to break out of our comfort zone, be willing to look like a zealot. We need to start reaching people that wouldn’t change their habits otherwise. Make them uncomfortable. Make them think.

Maybe they make fun of you to other people. But, maybe those people are more sympathetic. Maybe they can more effectively build on the foundation you have set. The ripple effect is unstoppable and on your side.

We may have already passed the tipping point, environmentally speaking. We can’t wait for lawmakers and nonprofit groups to help us along, tell us what to do. We can’t wait for other people to see the light. We need to act.

“The man who travels alone can start today;
but he who travels with another
must wait until that other is ready.”
-Henry David Thoreau

We need to start today.

• We need to do everything we are capable of in our own lives,
• We need to do more than our fair share to compensate for those people who don’t care,
• We need to talk about it but not complain about it,
• We need to infect people with our enthusiasm,
• We need to inspire others with our actions,
• We need to lead by example.

“You must be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
-Mahatma Gandhi

Now, I don’t feel that I am a leader or that I am inspiring, generally speaking. But I know that I am, to my kids. So I am starting there. Every kid, remember, wants to be helpful and useful; and every adult has one of those kids inside them.

It’s not enough to just preach to the choir, either. We need to remind people that taking care of our earth, our shared home, is a social responsibility. We all live here and we have a shared obligation to keep it livable.

We need to help them remember the lessons and values that their mothers taught them.

And we need to do it today and every day. Until it becomes a habit. A part of our character.

“Do something every day that you don’t want to do;
this is the golden rule for acquiring the habit of doing your duty without pain.”
-Mark Twain

Further reading:

Michael Pollan, author of In Defense of Food: An Eater’s Manifesto, wrote an article titled “Why Bother?” that covers many of the same points I have here, only with more credibility and eloquence, and less hands-on-hips lecturing;

50 Ways to Help the Planet. Yes, another list. Is there anything else you can check off?

Now that you’ve got rid of all those nasty, dangerous chemicals, your kids can help you keep the house clean! But how can you get them to do so, without resorting to bribes, yelling, and dire threats?

I am writing specifically with the kids in mind, but I think these tips can be extended to apply to roommates and husbands as well.

1. Start early. If your kids can’t remember a time when they weren’t expected to pitch in, they won’t complain about it.
2. Tailor the task to the age. The oldest brings the laundry in from the line and distributes clothing to the room in which it belongs; the middle child matches up socks and puts those away; the youngest folds napkins, placemats and washclothes. Everyone gets a job that fits their capabilities and they can feel they do well.
3. Give compliments….Kids should feel good about their contribution to family harmony.
4. But don’t overdo it. Remember that you want this to become a commonplace habit, ideally to the point where chores undone will just not “feel right” to everyone involved. Give praise when jobs are particularly well-done, or when you didn’t have to remind them to do something, or when they helped a sibling.
5. Don’t complain. It starts with you. The more you act like cleaning is horrible, horrible stuff, akin to slavery, the less your kids are going to want to do it. Of course, I’m not saying you have to pretend you love it, either. Just that it needs to be done and nobody likes a martyr.
6. Trade off jobs. When the kids mop, one sprays the floor down with cleaner, paying attention to dirty spots. One mops. One dries. Every room, they trade off so everyone gets a chance at the good job and does their time on the bad job. (Note: the good job and bad job seems to change all the time, for no particular reason.)
7. Let the kids do the adult jobs sometimes. Once I cut my hand open and didn’t want to do the dishes. My kids were delighted to do it. They have asked to be allowed to do it ever since. Sometimes they will make dinner. Sandwiches and salad, to be sure, but kids like to feel that they have done something truly helpful.
8. Let them do it their own way. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Remember that the goal is establishing habits and making life easier in the long run.
9. Don’t hover. Be resigned, in the beginning, to going back and getting the bits they missed, but don’t ever let them catch you doing it. This undermines the confidence in younger ones, and leads older ones to think that a so-so job is good enough because you’re just going to redo it anyway. But let them do their job, without you breathing down their neck.
10. Relax your standards. If you are crazy nit-picky, your family will conclude that there is no pleasing you. Pick one thing and let the others go. My pet peeve is socks on the floor. I have put everybody on notice. If I find socks on the floor, that person is in trouble and he knows it, but it is fair for me to be mad because he had fair warning. But if you have a laundry list of things that will make you mad, then you will always be after your kids to remember to do things. They will not be able to keep track of it all. That sets up a vicious cycle where you’re always critical, so they give up; on your end, it feels like nobody is trying, so you become resentful. I speak from experience: Let it go.
11. If you need to, make “supervisor” a job. Have one kid vacuum, then have the supervisor point out the spots missed. Kids will delight in showing their siblings their mistakes, and your floor will be very well vacuumed. Make sure this job gets traded off fairly, and use it sparingly.
12. Make daily chores routine. Obviously the table needs to be set and cleared every night, but sometimes we’re tempted to let room cleaning or countertops slide. That’s how we sentence ourselves to a beautiful Saturday wasted on cleaning. Have everyone chip in every night to clean the community areas, and every night spend five minutes picking up their own bedrooms. Daily maintenance will make weekend power cleaning a breeze.
13. Make weekend cleaning routine, too. Our kids have free time until noon on the weekend. At noon, the TV goes off and they owe me an hour of intensive cleaning. For them, that means floor mopping, vacuuming, and really cleaning their rooms. Since they know for a fact that there is no wriggle room on the 12:00-1:00 time slot, they don’t bother to argue. Plus, they enjoy a clean bathroom as much as anyone else.
14. Make it fun. Play loud music. Sing off-key. Dance.
15. Make it worth their while. Having less housework to do means I have more free time. I use that time to bake goodies for lunchboxes, and to make brunch on Sundays. My kids have a hard time complaining about cleaning when their mouths are full of the pancakes their father and I made while they were tidying. Note: I don’t tie chores or housework to an allowance. This falls under the category of “social responsibility”, which is an unpaid obligation, and it applies outside the home, too.
16. Set an example. You can’t expect kids to keep their rooms clean when your office is a mess.
17. Keep it consistent. Cleaning a bedroom every night is doable. Let the mess pile up for a week, though, and you really can’t expect kids to handle it. It’s just too much; they’re not equipped to figure out where to begin. Same with the weekly mop: if it’s done every week, I can be reasonably sure they’ll do a good job. Leave it for a month, and now we’re dealing with serious grime, and I’m going to be the one applying the elbow grease.
18. Be consistent time-wise, too: I try to always have dishes done by 7:30 so I have time to read to my daughter and have lights-out by 8. If it’s 7:25 and I still have a sinkful, my husband will often grab a towel and start drying without being asked, because he can see I’m behind schedule.
19. Have less stuff. Seriously. It took me years to see the simple wisdom here. If you can’t keep the clutter under control, you have too much stuff. The less stuff you have, the less time you spend picking it up and putting it away.
20. Know when to stop. Be reasonable. No matter how dirty the house is, at 1:00 on Saturday, we are done, excepting the everyday stuff like laundry. The rest of the day stretches invitingly in front of us, guilt-free. We have done our time, the house is clean enough for today, let’s go out and play.

I cannot overemphasize how much setting up schedules and routines simplified our life. It just becomes a part of your daily rhythm and muscle memory. One day you will find that you cannot go to sleep with clothes thrown on the floor. You will automatically wash out the coffeepot and put it away without even registering the act. And you will look around your house in amazement, because it is clean, and yet you have free time.

I only started these measures about six months ago, when I simply had had enough. I would spend all day Friday cleaning, and Monday morning I would survey a house worse than it was before I started.

The kids grumbled at first. My husband shrugged me off. I kept going. I think it took about eight weeks before they- and I- realized it wasn’t just a passing phase, that I was serious, that this was important to me. They did their part, grudgingly. Then, it slowly became habit, and the complaining stopped. I had more time to cook, to read. I became a nicer mom. I was starting new projects, I was excited about things, I was more fun to be around. I think on some subconscious level the family wanted to reinforce that, so they in turn became more helpful.

And now, we’ve hit a point where if things get messy, it bugs us, and nobody complains when we schedule an hour of extra cleaning time. Because we’ve become used to having a clean house, and the serenity, the peace of mind, that comes with it, and we are willing to put in a little extra time in to have that.

But it’s not just about a clean house. It goes beyond that, too.

More thought along that line in tomorrow’s segment:

Green Cleaning and Social Responsibility.

Also see Green Cleaning 101 to review what cleaning products we use.

Cleaning your house with environmentally friendly household products saves you money, cuts down on clutter, makes your life much less complicated, and cuts down dramatically on chemical exposure. It is the epitome of simple, green, organic, happy living.

I am not going to beat you over the head with statistics about the chemicals involved in household cleansers. I am only going to say that with lead paint on our toys, pollution in our air, traces of prescription drugs in our tapwater and residual pesticides in our clothing and linens, I am not going to use something to “clean” my house that is labelled Warning: Toxic. Keep out of the reach of children.

To me, that says, Poison. Do not keep in house.

Switching over to safer cleaning was easy. It made my life simpler and freed up a whole shelf in my linen closet. I can now delegate a fair portion of the cleaning to my children without fearing that they will sear their lungs or go blind. My husband enjoys the “mad scientist” element of mixing up his own cleansers. And you can customize the fragrances, strengths, and appearance to your liking.

Here’s what we use:

Dr. Bronner’s Magic Soaps. Vegetable-based and biodegradable, it is ultra-concentrated and will last forever.

• Use it straight for: handwashing, clothing, dishes, bathing and shampooing of pets and humans ( remember that a little goes a long way!)
• Add a teaspoon to a spray bottle filled with water for all-purpose cleaning: tabletops, counters, fingerprints on walls, spot treatment on carpets, everyday bathroom cleaning.
• Use the tea tree or eucalyptus varieties for extra antiseptic qualities, or
• Use the fragrance-free baby variety and add 20 drops of your own essential oils for scent.
• In general, the longer you allow this to sit after spraying, the less “elbow grease” required.
• These soaps do not foam up like you may be used to, which saves considerable amounts of time and water during rinsing.

Dr. Bronner’s Sal Suds is an all-purpose cleanser that has that familiar scent of pine. It is specifically made for surface cleaning and is probably a better choice if you do not plan to use it as a hand or bath soap.

• This is our floor cleaner, again using one teaspoon in a spray bottle filled with hot water.

20 Mule Team Borax is excellent for heavy-duty bathroom cleaning.

• Just pour some onto a sponge or rag and scrub away. It is non-abrasive and does not cause your hands to become red and swollen, like what I used to use.
• Pour some into toilet bowl and let sit overnight, give a quick swish in the morning.
• You can also add borax to your laundry to boost your detergent’s cleaning and whitening power.

Vinegar and water in a spray bottle:

• works as a general disinfectant (vinegar smell dissipates when dry, or add 20 drops of essential oil for scent and extra antiseptic qualities.)
• is great for cutting through bacon grease residue on your stovetop.

Club soda in a spray bottle:

• Is a great mirror and window cleaner without the horrible fumes.
• keeps stains from setting.

Baking soda is known to soak up odors in the fridge. Also:

• use instead of a Brillo to scrub pots and pans (if it’s really bad, pour baking soda on when pan is still hot and let sit throughout meal or overnight.)
• sprinkle onto carpets and let sit overnight to absorb pet odors, vacuum in morning.
• for kitchen sink drain maintenance, pour in some baking soda, then pour in vinegar for exciting foamy action; follow up with a kettle of boiling water.

Lemon juice quickly gets the onion smell off your hands so you can rub your teary eyes. Or:

• Freeze lemon juice in ice-cube trays and run through your garbage disposal to keep it sharp and smelling fresh. (Lemon peel and regular ice cubes also does the trick.)
• Combine lemon juice and water in a bowl and microwave for a minute; allow to cool; wipe microwave clean.
• One part lemon juice to two parts olive oil can be used as a natural wood cleaner.
• Not a cleaning tip, but good to know: Dip cut apple slices into lemony water to keep them from browning in kids’ lunchboxes.

Houseplants are an easy way help keep your air clean and fresh, and they just make you feel better about yourself.

• I highly recommend an aloe plant in your bedroom, because they release extra oxygen at night, when you’re breathing deeply. After a full year of extreme negligence, ours is still alive, lush and enormous; and you can use the aloe as an emergency lotion or sunburn treatment.

Spray bottles and a bucket to keep everything together can be found at your local dollar store. Dr. Bronner’s and essential oils are available online and can be found at health and organic stores; we get ours from Trader Joe’s.

I cut old towels into rags in lieu of sponges, and wrap one around our old Swiffer for mopping.

Tomorrow I’ll post about how to get your kids to do their share of the cleaning!

“Our house is clean enough to be healthy,
and dirty enough to be happy.”
-Anonymous

Further reading:

Organic Housekeeping by Ellen Sandbeck
Clean House, Clean Planet by Karen Logan offers up cost analysis in addition to recipes
How to Grow Fresh Air by B.C. Wolverton classifies 50 houseplants by how effectively they clean your air and by ease of upkeep.

For a comprehensive list of essential oils and their properties, click here.

This post was first in a three part series. You may also like:
Green Cleaning 101: Family Edition, or
Green Cleaning and Social Responsibility.