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  • Doing It Up, Laura Ingalls Wilder Style

    Doing It Up, Laura Ingalls Wilder Style

    Announced by all the trumpets of the sky,
    Arrives the snow, and, driving o’er the fields,
    Seems nowhere to alight: the whited air
    Hides hills and woods, the river, and the heaven,
    And veils the farm-house at the garden’s end.
    The sled and traveller stopped, the courier’s feet
    Delayed, all friends shut out, the housemates sit
    Around the radiant fireplace, enclosed
    In a tumultuous privacy of storm.

    -Ralph Waldo Emerson,
    “The Snow-Storm”

    John Bolaris said the snow was going to start in the morning, but no big deal. Nothing to worry about. Changing to rain. The real snow wouldn’t begin until late afternoon, and then the wallop was expected during the overnight hours.

    John Bolaris was wrong. Again.

    By 10am schools had been declared closed; snowflakes as big as my fist were sailing past the window. By early afternoon my yard looked like this.

    Note how dark the pictures are: although it was daytime, the snow-filled clouds fully blotted out the sun. We already had four or five inches on the ground and the tree limbs looked heavy. And the predicted storm hadn’t even arrived yet, this was just bonus snow.

    The kids and I dutifully shoveled the stairs, the walkway, the driveway, in the freezing rain, so that we wouldn’t have an impenetrable layer cake of snow and ice to chip through the next day. The Dogness watched us from the dry porch and wondered what ailed us.

    And then we all hunkered down and waited for the “the hammer,” “the boom,” “the match to the kerosene,” the “THUNDERSNOW.” (These are all Bolarisisms for “one hell of a snow.”)

    And it came. Holy crow.

    I only heard one clap of thunder, and it was still freezing rain at that point, so once again no thundersnow for me. But the snow was fast, furious, thick, and sideways.

    Jeff went out and shoveled in the blizzard in the middle of the night so that he would be able to leave for work in the morning. When morning came, you couldn’t even tell any shoveling had happened. More depressing words have never been written.

    At 11ish, while I was trying to write a blog post, I saw sparks through my bedroom window. And heard a boom.

    Not John Bolaris’ boom.; a boom no one wants to hear in the midst of a snow storm with blizzard conditions. The boom of some sort of electricity-generating equipment blowing out.

    So, we spent the next 36 hours trapped in a house with no heat. No electricity. No running water, no flushing toilets.

    We opened the curtains to let the sun warm the parts of the house that it could.

    We couldn’t help but laugh at the people who drove down our road only to discover it was impassable. They were many.

    My brother’s dog barked at them jubilently, luckily not testing the boundaries of the compromised electric fence.

    We trudged out to shovel the driveway for the 2nd time in 2 days and returned to “warm up” in a 49° house.

    We read books. We hung out and talked. The kids played each other on their Nintendo DS things until the batteries gave out.

    We did the best we could to stay cheerful, to roll with the punches, to have faith that PECO was going to come save us soon.

    Dude, it sucked. Laura Ingalls Wilder I am not. She can have her little house on the prairie, I need heat and internet.

    Yes, it’s healthy and good to unplug from time to time. Yes, it’s fun to play board games. Yes, it’s oddly satisfying to see I’m paying $0.00 in electricity at the moment.

    Not so fun:

    Piling 5 people into one bed to keep warm in a house that’s only growing colder as the night wears on.

    Discovering that half our gloves and hats had been thrown into the wash, but never made it to the dryer.

    Eating cold food on a cold night.

    Washing your hands in candlelight-melted snow.

    Hauling in buckets of snow to melt so you can flush toilets. Discovering the house isn’t warm enough to melt the snow.

    Refereeing arguments between children who are on their 3rd day off from school and are frankly sick of each other.

    Finding new ways to entertain your 6yo once the sun has gone down, especially since it’s too cold to get out of bed (so no flashlight tag or anything like that). We actually all fell asleep somewhere in the vicinity of 7:30pm out of pure boredom. (All that shoveling may have had something to do with it too.)

    Thankfully, PECO did arrive during the night and we had power restored in time for everyone to get a shower and make it to their (two hour delayed) school bus on time. (God bless Avon Grove School District for having school that day.)

    I’m thinking we are going to have to bite the bullet and buy some sort of backup generator. I’m hoping we can find some sort of hybrid that can be at least partially powered by solar.

    That, or we pony up the many thousands of dollars to have the lining of our chimney replaced so we can safely use the fireplaces.

    I’m also seriously considering one of those personal Wi-Fi things through my cellphone provider (Sprint). I can connect to the internet with TetherBerry, but it seriously drains my phone battery and when you have no idea how long you’re going to be without power, a working phone does wonders for your psyche. I work online, so I was seriously stressed about not having internet access.

    Maybe add a solar cellphone charger and laptop charger to that list.

    We already own several solar-charged flashlights and lanterns that came in handy- we keep them in a kitchen window so that they’re always charged and easy to find. We also keep bottled water on hand for outages. The food in the fridge, we put out into the snow to keep cold.

    Mental note to always make sure the stuff in the wash goes into the dryer before going to bed.

    Any more tips and tricks for making life during a power outage go more easily? Or advice on buying a generator? We have another storm scheduled for Wednesday.

  • The MLK 25 Challenge

    The MLK 25 Challenge

    Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve.

    You don’t have to have a college degree to serve.

    You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.

    You only need a heart full of grace.

    A soul generated by love.

    -Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

    Once upon a time, a man stood and spoke of a dream.

    He inspired others to dream of a better world. To be better themselves.

    Five years later another man shot him.

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    Less than two weeks ago a man opened fire in Tucson, Arizona.

    A number of people were killed, among them a little girl, born just one town over from us.

    We may ask ourselves if we’ve shown enough kindness and generosity and compassion to the people in our lives.  Perhaps we question whether we’re doing right by our children, or our community, whether our priorities are in order.

    We recognize our own mortality, and we are reminded that in the fleeting time we have on this Earth, what matters is not wealth, or status, or power, or fame -– but rather, how well we have loved — and what small part we have played in making the lives of other people better…

    We may not be able to stop all evil in the world, but I know that how we treat one another, that’s entirely up to us.

    -Barack Obama, Tucson memorial

    Four years ago some jerkwad kids tipped over a porta-potty under the I-95 bridge in Wilmington, just down the street from my house. Probably on a dare. Maybe to show some bravado. Who knows.

    A DART bus driver was inside. He was paralyzed as a result.

    A few days ago my newspaper reported that they have caught the kid who did it.

    He’s 14. Which means he was 10 at the time.

    Which means he managed to ruin his life before he even started really living it.

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    These incidents are by no means equal, or parallel, or comparative. They’re just all on my mind today. I feel like we- just humankind, in general- are hurting, raw, like a scabbed wound that has been freshly broken open.

    It’s just too much. Too much bad news in the world lately and I want to stay in bed in the morning.

    But I can’t. I have to get my kids to school in the morning. Drag my carcass out of my safe place, put on my happy face. My daughter wants to know if there really are bad men in the world. If they have guns. If they can get us.

    I tell her that yes, there are bad men. And yes, sometimes they have guns. But that also there are good people, who love her and protect her. I tell her that the good people far, far outnumber the bad people.

    I change the subject. I speak of silly things, of beautiful things, I point out all the wondrous things in the world. I can’t stop thinking about what I have said. Whether I am a liar.

    I want the world to be a better place. I want to make it that way by any means possible. I want my kids to live in a world that is beautiful and good and a damn sight better than the one I’m living in today.

    I have a dream.

    I want people to sit up, snap out of it. Maybe I’m projecting my own mental funk onto them, I don’t know. But I log on Facebook every day and I see a whole hell of a lot of complaining. I do it too. Here we’ve made a place where we can all be together, hang out, share stories and pictures and news, and most of what I see is bitching about things that can’t be changed.

    The weather. A virus. The fact that somehow, inexplicably, it’s Monday. Again.

    [Side note: approximately 1/7 of your life is Monday. Quit pissing away 1/7 of your life complaining about what freaking day it is.]

    There are a great many things that can be changed. Easily. For the better. Think if, every day, we did one of those things. And we posted that every day along with all our other various sundries. Think how wonderful that would be, scanning down a list of amazing and unique ways our friends and family and neighbors and internet associates make the world a better place.

    I have a dream.

    But, of course, I have no control or influence over what other people do, and while I am content to climb up onto my soapbox here in my personal space, I’m not going to call out people I do love and appreciate (really, I do) over completely normal behavior in a public forum.

    I’m tired of feeling sad and helpless. I need to do something.

    What I can do is change my own habits, my own life. (Again.)

    This time I’m taking the kids with me.

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    Today is MLK Day, which has been declared a day of service. Thousands of people everywhere took advantage of a day off to help their community in some way.

    Well, you already know how I feel about Valentine’s Day. And Mother’s Day. And Earth Day. Show your wife and your mom how you feel every day, dammit, and keep your Hallmark cards to yourself. Show some consideration for the world you share with every other person on earth and plan to one day bequeath to your children- every day. It’s nothing to celebrate, just good manners.

    And for once someone agrees with me. In a manner of speaking. Stick with me here.

    In honor of the 25th anniversary of the King holiday, a challenge has been issued. Recognizing that service is not something we have a holiday for and forget about the rest of the year, but something we should strive to make an everyday part of our lives.

    25 acts of service, of giving of yourself, to people in need, to your community, over the course of the year.

    Life’s most persistent and urgent question is:

    ‘What are you doing for others?’

    -Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

    The website lists 75 ideas to start you off, but the sky is the limit. Possibilities offered are things like write a letter to a soldier. Deliver meals to homebound seniors. Clean up litter from a park. Give blood.

    Things that my kids can easily do, or at least help out with. Chances to do good for others. To see the good, the humanity, in others.

    And in themselves.

    Look, we can give and give and give stuff to our kids. Toys. Lessons. Sports. Trips. We don’t give them nearly enough opportunities to make a difference in someone else’s life. To see themselves as vital, helpful. Good.

    (I’m not saying that’s why we should help people. But it’s a lovely perk, is it not? Why deprive them of that feeling? How can it be wrong to want to be a better person?)

    I just want charity, help to those who will not likely be returning it, to be second nature to them. Normal. A given. Not just one day out of the year, but whenever the opportunity presents itself. And if it doesn’t? We go looking. I bet we don’t have to go far.

    So. 25 acts of service. We’re talking two a month, with a bonus act of kindness for Christmas.

    It makes me want to cry, that such a thing is considered a challenge. Our world is seriously effed up.

    But I like lists and goals and challenges, so awaaaay we go.

    Come with us?

    Tell me: what good thing have you done today?

    Make a rule, and pray God to help you keep it,

    never, if possible,

    to lie down at night without being able to say,

    “I have made one human being, at least,
    a little wiser, a little happier, or a little better this day.”

    -Charles Kingsley

    ** P.S. I did not take this bottom photo. It’s from a stock image site. Here’s the source. **

  • …Were it offered to my choice…

    …Were it offered to my choice…

    Ben @ The Franklin Institute

    …were it offered to my choice, I should have no objection

    to a repetition of the same life from its beginning,

    only asking the advantages authors have in a second edition

    to correct some faults of the first.

    So I might, besides correcting the faults,

    change some sinister accidents and events of it for others more favorable.

    But though this were denied,

    I should still accept the offer.

    from The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin

    Could you say the same?
    Given the choice, would you live the same life over?

    It’s sort of mind-boggling, so let me be more precise:

    Given the choice, would you live 2010 over? Like, starting today?

    I think most of us would say, hellz to the no. 2010 sucked. (That link takes you to a post with lots of profanity, FYI. Hilarious, spot-on profanity.)

    So now I want you to ask yourself: what am I gonna do differently this year so it’s not just a repeat of last year’s suckage?

    And more importantly, how am I going to use my experiences from last year to turn them to my advantage?

    That’s key, people.

    In order to truly live a life of no regrets, to live a life worth repeating even if you’re not allowed to change “sinister accidents and events of it for others more favorable,” you have to take all the crap and make it useful, worthwhile. You can’t gloss over them, bury them in the recesses of your mind, pretend they never happened. You have to own them and examine them and find the good within them. You have to figure out how to turn back and be able to say, things happen for a reason.

    –This one horrible thing happened and it made me stronger.

    –I made this idiot mistake and because of it, I didn’t make this other idiot mistake.

    –This tragedy happened and it made me appreciate how freaking lucky I am and how beautiful my life really is.

    You can’t avoid turbulence. Life is hard. A lot of it sucks.

    That’s the way it is.

    The question is, when life slings crap at you, are you letting it chip away at you, break you?

    Or polish you into something beautiful and shining and strong?

    How’s this for a new year’s resolution:

    Start living a life worth repeating. Make every event count.

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    And now, gratuitous photos from the Franklin Institute at closing time. Because it was so pretty and I can’t imagine any way I’d work them into a future post.

    Happy weekend 🙂