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  • Doing It Up, Laura Ingalls Wilder Style

    Doing It Up, Laura Ingalls Wilder Style

    Announced by all the trumpets of the sky,
    Arrives the snow, and, driving o’er the fields,
    Seems nowhere to alight: the whited air
    Hides hills and woods, the river, and the heaven,
    And veils the farm-house at the garden’s end.
    The sled and traveller stopped, the courier’s feet
    Delayed, all friends shut out, the housemates sit
    Around the radiant fireplace, enclosed
    In a tumultuous privacy of storm.

    -Ralph Waldo Emerson,
    “The Snow-Storm”

    John Bolaris said the snow was going to start in the morning, but no big deal. Nothing to worry about. Changing to rain. The real snow wouldn’t begin until late afternoon, and then the wallop was expected during the overnight hours.

    John Bolaris was wrong. Again.

    By 10am schools had been declared closed; snowflakes as big as my fist were sailing past the window. By early afternoon my yard looked like this.

    Note how dark the pictures are: although it was daytime, the snow-filled clouds fully blotted out the sun. We already had four or five inches on the ground and the tree limbs looked heavy. And the predicted storm hadn’t even arrived yet, this was just bonus snow.

    The kids and I dutifully shoveled the stairs, the walkway, the driveway, in the freezing rain, so that we wouldn’t have an impenetrable layer cake of snow and ice to chip through the next day. The Dogness watched us from the dry porch and wondered what ailed us.

    And then we all hunkered down and waited for the “the hammer,” “the boom,” “the match to the kerosene,” the “THUNDERSNOW.” (These are all Bolarisisms for “one hell of a snow.”)

    And it came. Holy crow.

    I only heard one clap of thunder, and it was still freezing rain at that point, so once again no thundersnow for me. But the snow was fast, furious, thick, and sideways.

    Jeff went out and shoveled in the blizzard in the middle of the night so that he would be able to leave for work in the morning. When morning came, you couldn’t even tell any shoveling had happened. More depressing words have never been written.

    At 11ish, while I was trying to write a blog post, I saw sparks through my bedroom window. And heard a boom.

    Not John Bolaris’ boom.; a boom no one wants to hear in the midst of a snow storm with blizzard conditions. The boom of some sort of electricity-generating equipment blowing out.

    So, we spent the next 36 hours trapped in a house with no heat. No electricity. No running water, no flushing toilets.

    We opened the curtains to let the sun warm the parts of the house that it could.

    We couldn’t help but laugh at the people who drove down our road only to discover it was impassable. They were many.

    My brother’s dog barked at them jubilently, luckily not testing the boundaries of the compromised electric fence.

    We trudged out to shovel the driveway for the 2nd time in 2 days and returned to “warm up” in a 49° house.

    We read books. We hung out and talked. The kids played each other on their Nintendo DS things until the batteries gave out.

    We did the best we could to stay cheerful, to roll with the punches, to have faith that PECO was going to come save us soon.

    Dude, it sucked. Laura Ingalls Wilder I am not. She can have her little house on the prairie, I need heat and internet.

    Yes, it’s healthy and good to unplug from time to time. Yes, it’s fun to play board games. Yes, it’s oddly satisfying to see I’m paying $0.00 in electricity at the moment.

    Not so fun:

    Piling 5 people into one bed to keep warm in a house that’s only growing colder as the night wears on.

    Discovering that half our gloves and hats had been thrown into the wash, but never made it to the dryer.

    Eating cold food on a cold night.

    Washing your hands in candlelight-melted snow.

    Hauling in buckets of snow to melt so you can flush toilets. Discovering the house isn’t warm enough to melt the snow.

    Refereeing arguments between children who are on their 3rd day off from school and are frankly sick of each other.

    Finding new ways to entertain your 6yo once the sun has gone down, especially since it’s too cold to get out of bed (so no flashlight tag or anything like that). We actually all fell asleep somewhere in the vicinity of 7:30pm out of pure boredom. (All that shoveling may have had something to do with it too.)

    Thankfully, PECO did arrive during the night and we had power restored in time for everyone to get a shower and make it to their (two hour delayed) school bus on time. (God bless Avon Grove School District for having school that day.)

    I’m thinking we are going to have to bite the bullet and buy some sort of backup generator. I’m hoping we can find some sort of hybrid that can be at least partially powered by solar.

    That, or we pony up the many thousands of dollars to have the lining of our chimney replaced so we can safely use the fireplaces.

    I’m also seriously considering one of those personal Wi-Fi things through my cellphone provider (Sprint). I can connect to the internet with TetherBerry, but it seriously drains my phone battery and when you have no idea how long you’re going to be without power, a working phone does wonders for your psyche. I work online, so I was seriously stressed about not having internet access.

    Maybe add a solar cellphone charger and laptop charger to that list.

    We already own several solar-charged flashlights and lanterns that came in handy- we keep them in a kitchen window so that they’re always charged and easy to find. We also keep bottled water on hand for outages. The food in the fridge, we put out into the snow to keep cold.

    Mental note to always make sure the stuff in the wash goes into the dryer before going to bed.

    Any more tips and tricks for making life during a power outage go more easily? Or advice on buying a generator? We have another storm scheduled for Wednesday.

  • 2011: Perspective. Resolution.

    2011: Perspective. Resolution.

    One resolution I have made, and try always to keep, is this:

    To rise above the little things.

    John Burroughs

    Yesterday was New Year’s Day, January 1st, the beginning of a new year and the dawn of a new decade.

    I dreamt of my father, who died nearly eight years ago. Eight. God. It was brought on, I imagine, because I asked my kids on New Year’s Eve to remember my Uncle George, my father’s brother, who passed this fall. I asked them to fix him in their memories, so they could tell their cousin Eva, who was born only a few weeks before his death, about him. How pleased he was when she was born.

    Memory is funny, I guess; in my dreamspace it was literally like walking, talking, drinking coffee with my dad again. I guess in a sense I really was; our memories are our reality while we are dreaming. But, my rational, conscious mind kept butting in and reminding me that my dad is gone, and so there was a bit of terror mixed in- duality- I woke up drenched in sweat, and afraid.

    And then so, so freaking sad, as I realized again that he was gone. But for a morning I was able to hear echoes of his voice, smell his shampoo, just remember what it was like to sit next to him. I remembered.

    Later on in the day I realized I’d lost the sound of his voice again. Sigh. Does it ever get any easier?

    Anyway. My point being (yes, I do have a point to make here), just because January 1 is the first day of the year doesn’t mean that everything is shiny and new. It has its highs and lows, just like any other day, just like any other week, month, year, decade.

    The key to happiness, I’ve decided, is knowing that life is cyclical, in being content to ride out the low points until things start looking up, and taking the time to enjoy the sun on your face and the breeze in your hair once you reach the top.


    New Year’s Day is the moment when you get to pause at the pinnacle, hold your breath and feel butterflies in your stomach, look out over the year left behind and the year ahead. It’s a moment of perspective.

    An opportunity to rise above the little things, make big plans, dream lofty dreams, if only just for one day.

    I don’t really have any resolutions for 2011, other than a vague “More Martha, less Roseanne.” I plan to wear heels more, just because I like the clack- clack- clack sound they make on my floors. I bought myself Fiestaware so that I would better enjoy my time in the kitchen. And I’m trying to talk my sister-in-law into a standing once-a-month movie date just to ensure I do something fun every once in a while.

    I plan to feel better about myself. Just in general.

    What I do have is a faded page ripped out of a Real Simple magazine, that’s been pinned to my bulletin board above my desk for years now. Words to live by. They’ve done so much good for me, I thought I’d share with you: to help with perspective in 2011.

    1. Allow yourself the chance to really savor each moment.

    2. Optimism isn’t just a shift in perspective. It’s an act of bravery.

    3. Only you can decide the path worth taking.

    4. Don’t wait for your mood to change; take action despite it.

    5. Approach gift shopping as an opportunity to honor the people you really love.

    6. Rather than search for a single miracle food, strive for a varied and delicious diet.

    7. You can’t grow without pushing your limits.

    8. Stop worrying about getting sick- focus on your health instead.

    9. Don’t believe what you hear. Life is good.

    10. No one knows what the future will bring. Put your energy into now.

    And my own addition: take the time to notice all the little things about the people that you love. Take no one, nothing, for granted.

    Happy New Year, everybody. May this year bring you everything you need.

    Ferris Wheel photos taken @ Morey's Pier, on the boardwalk in Wildwood NJ.
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