Category: Family, Parenting

  • 6 Ways to Volunteer and Give Back, With Kids

    6 Ways to Volunteer and Give Back, With Kids

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    No one is useless in this world
    who lightens the burden of it for someone else.

    –Benjamin Franklin

    There’s a lot of worry out there.

    I see headlines wondering about a double-dip recession. I know people in this area who are recovering from all the flooding that’s occurred these past few weeks, others who are going from a two-income family to a one-income family.

    Meanwhile, donations are down when people need it most:

    • Blood donations are down.
    • Food kitchens are starving as food and money donations are down nationwide. Oh yeah, and food prices are rising.
    • Salvation Army donations are down as much as 30 percent.
    • You know what’s up? Unemployment, that’s what.

    I get that people are feeling poor all over, but we need to bear two things in mind:

    1. For 99.999999% of us: we have it better than someone else. Therefore we can afford to help that person, and

    2. We are rich in proportion to the extent we can help others. You need to give of yourself to feel truly rich.

    If your situation is such that every penny counts, there are ways to give to your community that don’t involve dipping into your bank account. Even better, these are real, tangible ways that can include your children.

    (Perhaps, one day, we will look back on these hard times and acknowledge that they helped teach our kids lessons we didn’t have opportunity to learn, in our own youths.)

    • Clean the outdoors. This can be as part of an organized community cleanup, an every-once-in-a-while effort, or you might decide to keep your block or a corner of your favorite park litter-free. Everyone benefits from a beautiful outdoors.
    • Feed the hungry. Hold a food drive for your local food pantry, and prepare some land in your yard to “plant a row for the needy” next spring. Clip coupons for shelters and food banks.
    • Give the gift of comfort. Collect blankets, comfort items and toiletries to donate to a women’s shelter, or collect books and toys for the children’s ward at the hospital. Some hospitals collect for care packages, and some will take volunteers to read to sick kids.
    • Go mobile. Drop off Meals on Wheels for the elderly and housebound, and stay and visit for a while. Check with your local library, too. Mine has a program where volunteers drop off library books; you could see if anyone would like to be read to or might need a bit of a helping hand.
    • Remember our four-legged friends. Animal shelters need towels, old stuffed animals, and pet food. They’re always looking for volunteers to walk, play with and clean after animals. Many pet stores have adoptable animals as well and could use donation items.
    • Build something. Habitat for Humanity has programs that kids as young as five can help with.

    Giving back to your community teaches kids responsibility, empathy, and communication and practical skills that will serve them well later in life.

    But mostly, it shows them firsthand that one person really can make a difference.

    If we as parents give our children opportunities to volunteer, give back, and see the difference they can make in people’s lives—

    if we raise them to believe that is their duty, and privilege

    think what a world our children could build.

     

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  • Parks Are Good For Play. Parents, Not So Much.

    Parks Are Good For Play. Parents, Not So Much.

    fearless play

    The very existence of youth

    is due in part to the necessity for play;

    the animal does not play because he is young,

    he has a period of youth because he must play.

    Karl Groos, evolutionary biologist

    File this one under “this week in DUH”…

    A newly released study suggests that hovering parents, over-concerned with their kids’ safety, stand in the way of active outdoor play. Which, in turn, cultivates learned habits and priorities that contribute to sedentary behavior and obesity, and a whole host of related health problems that really are something to be concerned about.

    The study, which will covered in some detail in the September issue of the American Journal for Preventive Medicine, also came to these conclusions:

    • Formal programs and facilities (soccer programs, basketball courts) increase the likelihood that kids aged five and up will participate in a higher level of activity.
    • If there are even just a couple of kids engaged in higher physical activity, other kids are more likely to increase their own levels.
    • Physical activity was negatively associated with gender; girls were just less active. But, girls were less likely to be hovered over in parks, and while engaged in higher levels of physical activity.

    The object of the study is to find out what stimulates active play in public parks so that parks can be designed with these factors in mind (for instance, providing shady areas for helicopter moms to sit and give their kids some freaking room and freedom to be kids). Which is nice and I’m glad these studies are being conducted, but I find it really depressing that parents are letting fear get in the way of active outdoor play.

    Fear of their kids being hurt.

    Fear of their kids being taken.

    Fear of their kids being pushy or being pushed.

    And fear of just stupid stuff, like their kid getting dirty. I was at the park for soccer practice the other day, and there was a little girl happily doing these big long jumps, pretending to be a frog. And every couple of jumps, she’d hit a mud puddle, because it’s rained here for 40 days and 40 nights straight (or thereabouts). A fairly normal, active thing for a kid to do, right? An inventive, harmless way to while away 90 minutes while her brother played soccer?

    I know you know where this is going. The second her mom realized what she was doing, she made her come over and sit down so she wouldn’t get her shoes dirty. “I’ve asked you a million times not to do that…”

    What we need is a study letting us know how to not let the fear rule our lives. And ruin our kids’ childhoods.

    Hey parents? Take your kids outside to play today. Somewhere where there are other kids. The more, the better.

    And then back off and leave them the hell alone. It’s good for them.

    For the record, I find the pictured rope structure terrifying. Which is why I always bring a book or a basketball to the park. She’s fearless, and I’d like her to stay that way.

     

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  • Saint Bernard Puppy Update: Super Size Me

    Saint Bernard Puppy Update: Super Size Me

    st bernard puppy

    Dogs are miracles with paws.
    Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy

    I missed the last puppy update; we did weigh her but the weather was uncooperative for photos and has been nothing but a wet and woolly rollercoaster ride since.

    I am in the midst of crate-training; housebreaking seemed to be going really well until we went to the beach for a weekend. She had exactly ZERO accidents at the beach house, but then several yesterday before I’d even got out of bed (my morning to sleep in). Regression? Or just the fact that I read her cues better than the rest of the family?

    Not sure, but I hope we’re back on track soon. I have to take Maverick for a physical later this week, meaning I’m going to have to leave her on her own for several hours for the first time. I’m nervous.

    Here’s the growth update, and it’s ZOMG-worthy. I actually made Jacob bring me the scale so I could double-check.

    July 9th, 8 weeks old. Welcomed 12 pound puppy into our home.
    July 23, 10 weeks old. 15 pounds. Weight increase, +25%
    August 6th, 12 weeks old. 20 pounds. +33%
    August 19th, 14 weeks old. 25 pounds. +25%
    September 3rd, 16 weeks old. 38 pounds. +52%

    FIFTY. TWO. PERCENT. INCREASE over the last two weeks.

    Hey, remember this little sweet thing from 8 short weeks ago?

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    Yeah. She looks like this now.

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    She’s still playful, which is nice, but her behavior is improving as she grows, which is a tremendous relief. I was a little panicky about having a full-size, gangly adolescent Saint Bernard tearing about with all the toothy exuberance of a puppy.

    (I still need to buy her a Saint Bernard sized bed, she has already outgrown Jimmy’s, who has taken to sleeping in Cassidy’s room. Between that and vet visits and another round of replacement Nylabones and rope toys, it’s going to be an expensive month for puppy mommy.)

    I can see the gentle giant emerging. But I’ll be honest: she’s got a bit of the devil in her.

    Still cute. And she loves me best… so smart, too.

     

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